The aid of a friend...

Sometimes things in life just pile up.
Lately, this has been the case for me...

I´m on the last few days of my "payed leave" from work, and will become unemployed within a week.
Also due to a change of adress, I´ve been living in a slight chaos for a couple of weeks.
Now I´m on the last stretch of it, packing up the last boxes, getting things organised and curtains in the windows. And, the big thing: Cleaning out the old apartment.

This however gave me some real anxiety. I hate cleaning out old homes!
I just want to move on, let it go, not having to look back. But, no, I have to clean this discusting dustcovered place up first! Cleaning is also not one of my least favourite things in life, and I´m not good at it either. Many times I´ve had to redo cleaning of apartments cuz the landlord complained... :/

I have moved plenty of times in my life. 15 times to be precise. And the worst thing is, the chaos, and the cleaning... Wish I had money to pay others to do it for me, but no.. off course I dont.

I was talking to a friend this morning. Trying hard to stay positive and saying "its not much, I should be able to do it.." She saw through my angst, and offered to help me out!
So today, instead of cleaning for the whole day, we cleaned together for a couple of hours and then we went out for lunch (my treat off course)! Best cleaningday ever :)
Tomorrow we will meet there again and finish it off.
It all feels SO much better now!

Why dont I ask for help in the first place? I´m pretty bad at that one, thinking I have to manage myself all the time. I wonder why that is?
Maybe if I ask a little bit more for help, my life will be both easier, funnier, and I´ll have more friends, cuz I let them in!
Something worth thinking about..

To question stereotypes

People! We need to wake up.

We need to see through this, and think about what kind of messages this are sending to the young women out there. Is it any wonder the bimbos are multiplying? 



http://thehairpin.com/2011/01/women-laughing-alone-with-salad/
http://thehairpin.com/2011/11/women-struggling-to-drink-water/

a couple of pages that really makes you think about what kind of messages the commercials out there are sending us, and the kids.

Here are som very clear idea of how this is everywhere, 2 of the biggest tvstar-chefs there are, this is how they are mostly portrayed:

Kinda sick huh?

To do what we can

This is a first for me. Spreading a petition.
But it´s just to important not to. Let´s protect our fellow humanbeings from brutality like this.

"A teenager named Lal Bibi was kidnapped, raped, tortured and chained to a wall for five days by a gang of powerful Afghan police officers. But she stood up to do what women in Afghanistan are told not to -  she is fighting back, and together we can help her and all Afghan women win justice."

The Avaaz.org campain is now in its final days before the july 8th Tokyo meeting.
Please sign this petition. And spread it!
Help make the women of Afganistans voices heard!
Together we can make one goddam loud scream!

Sign here:
https://secure.avaaz.org/en/justice_for_lal_bibi_c/?slideshow

To become a better person

I have been away from the blog for a while. Concentrating on my studies and my selfimprovements. :)
I am becoming a better person. So can you!

Unlock mental blocks!
Finally I have learned some keys to unlock the mental blocks in my head. It´s all in there you know, the reasons we eat to much, drink to much, do stupid things, bite our nails, and dont work out as we know we should.
When you find the answers to the question "why?", it all falls in to place.
The subconscious us our friend. Its a huge part of us, that wants whats best for us at the moment. Sometimes, the things that used to help us, is no longer helpful, and we can make it stop.

Turns out I was eating the wrong things, and to much, because I wanted to protect myself. Becoming fatter made me less desirable for men, and I have had alot of problems with men in the past.
Was this a conscious decision? Hell no. But still it had great impact on my life.
To dig that one out was not easy. But oh so very worth it!
Since this was revealed by my unconscious I have no problems with eating right and getting exercise! It´s kind of like a miracle for me. But, still really simple!

Focus on Results!
Since I´ve been focusing more on my personal growth, alot of things have happened. And I am so very glad, that I can now choose who I want to be. I can work on my issues and deal with them. Making problems disappear and personal goals easier to achieve.
When setting goals for yourself, focus on the RESULT. A goal might be to run a maraton, But the result is much wider. It might be: "Run a marathon, recieving a medal, getting the respect of my friends, being fitter then ever, prove to oneself that its possible". When focusing on all those surrounding aspects of reaching a goal, it makes it clearer. And clearer to see is easier to reach.
Close your eyes and imagine how it will feel like when you get there! Really really enjoy it! Now, you really have something to strive for havent you?

Assume Success!
When doing something, assume its going to work. Don´t start making excuses for failing even before you start!
If you go in to a jobinterview not sure of anything, really nervous and maybe even stressed out. You really don´t give a good impression. However, if you go in there, assuming you will get this job as easy as ABC, That you are Exactly what they want! Then you are so much more calm and collected, and you will also be able to get your thoughts communicated clearly. Showing them who you really are in a better way.

Hold yourself to a higher standard!
This is a key. You are a unique perfect person. You have everything you need inside of you. It´s just a matter of believing, and retrieving it at the times of need.
Start holding yourself to a higher standard. You deserve better!
You are bigger then the little problems you have. You are better than the mental blocks.
When something doesnt work, do something else. Don´t loose sight of whats important to you, keep the goals alive.

We are all made of starstuff. Lets make it shine!!!

To be influenced...

Its important that you let yourself be influenced by the right things.

We are bombarded everyday with messages, pictures, commercials, gossip and all sorts of other media.
This all gets recorded in the back of our minds. Especially when we don´t really pay attention.
If you see a commercial for a particular brand a couple of  times, even without really looking at it, it might just be on the tv while you play wordfeud, it lurks itself into the back of our minds. And the next time we go to the store to buy such a product, we think "hey, this brand I´ve seen, its supposed to be good". And then they have us!
in fact, we become MORE affected by commercials, when it hits us perifically. When we aren´t even thinking about it. Cause when we think about it, most of the time we see through it.

When they have no good technical stuff or real data and evidence to persuade us with, they use these kinds of lifestyle stuff. "look at me I drink this soda and I´m perfect, You want to be me. Therefore, buy my soda". Ridicolous really.

Every commercial for a new brand on tv, increases sales with ca 60%. EVERY COMMERCIAL. Think about it!
So when most people say, that they don´t let themselves become persuaded by commercials, they are in fact lying. It might not be consciously, but they are.

There is however a way around this. Awareness.
Awareness is always the key. If you just think about it when you go shopping, you can see through the first instinct, and say to yourself "hey wait. I don´t really know anything about this product do I?" and then make a more aware choice.

Take the power back. Be aware!

To change the life we live...

Anyone can do it. Change their life.
It may be slow, it may take several attempts and it may include several setbacks along the way.
But as long as one doesnt loose sight of the goal, its possible. It´s doable. It´s necessary.

To Evolve.

I´m in the process. constantly. More so the last year than ever. And I´m slowly turning into someone I can be proud of. Someone I am glad to be. Someone New.

To Evolve.
To Grow and Blossom.
To open up, to Believe in oneself.
Letting the Starstuff Shine.

To be inconsistent

I think of myself as a rational, logic, intelligent being.

However I, very often, do inconsistent stuff. Why is that?
For instance, I care for the environment, but I throw all my trash in the same bag, and then sneak it out of the house... I also drive a car thats not at all environment friendly...
And I want to live more healthy, started going to the gym and try to eat better. But now and again I just stuff my face with chocolates or cheese... And I find all sorts of excuses not to go to the gym.

Inconsistency is probably a large part of being human.
I´m working on becoming more robotic, but I´m not to consistent in that either ;)